Pamela's threesome

OK, this article is more than three years old, but I only found it this week ... while looking up the link to past into the post where I reference Pamela Druckerman's book on infidelity.  Anyway, it turns out that Pamela Druckerman has quite a few articles available on the Internet.  Including one about how she planned a threesome for her husband's fortieth birthday.

Here's the link: http://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/advice/a4307/threesome-sex-menage-a-trois-planning/ 

Mostly I mention it because the article is just a lot of fun.  The author pokes fun at herself in a friendly way while talking about how she looked for another woman to go to bed with her and her husband.  But she also mentions a couple of things she discovered once they were all in bed together.  It so happens these are things I discovered too, when in bed with Wife and (on different occasions) Boyfriend 1 or Boyfriend 4.  They are also things I don't normally think of when I mention these events, because usually my focus is just on how a threesome doesn't have to be all bad even if you are one of the Two and not the One.  Anyway, here are two things she noticed:

1. Sex can actually take a long time, and if you aren't actively engaged you can get kind of bored. Maybe if you're quiet you can sneak away to make a sandwich, or check your e-mail? Maybe the other two won't notice?
   
2. I never had the slightest sexual interest in Boyfriend 1 or Boyfriend 4. In both cases the "threesome" was really two concurrent pairs, both involving Wife. And Pamela said she found something similar as well: she had been expecting the other woman to be kind of interesting to her, and found that ... gosh, she really wasn't. Ho hum. Oh well.

Mostly, though, I just thought the article was fun.  If you haven't read it yet, maybe you will too.