Towards the end of the movie, Douglas speaks to Jean and says:
Look. Can you hear yourself? Can you? Do you have any idea what a terrible person you have become? All you give out is this endless negativity, a refusal to see any kind of light and joy, even when it's staring you in the face, and a desperate need to squash any sign of happiness in me or... or... or... anyone else. It's a wonder that I don't fling myself at the first kind word or gesture that comes my way, but I don't, ou... ou... ou... out of some sense of dried-up loyalty and respect, neither of which I ever bloody get in return.After the movie, as we were picking up, Wife volunteered that she found it a very painful speech to hear. Why painful?
Wife: Because in my mind I can just hear you saying the exact same things to me.
Wow. Is it that obvious? Of course, I guess I have said things like that before. (Even Son 2 once blew up at her in very similar terms.) But then I have to wonder, ... does she see herself doing the things that call out that reaction in us?
Or ... a more disturbing thought ... has she seen those behaviors and stopped doing them, but I have totally failed to see she's made any progress because I am no longer invested in paying attention or even seeing her any more at all?
Memo: When I first wrote this it was missing the last paragraph, and the next-to-last was also weaker. But then, I wrote it after finishing off an entire bottle of red wine during dinner and the movie. Red wine is supposed to be good for you, right?
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