Dude, just fix it. It would be way easier.
But this evening as I drove home I suddenly saw two things. First, the reason he is stonewalling me so crazily is that he's afraid ... of what, I don't know, but that has to be it. And second, this is exactly the dynamic I used to have with Wife, where she was so outrageously terrified all the time that I could say one thing and she'd hear something totally different. And I could never persuade her to put down her guard long enough to see that I wasn't attacking her. And so she could never actually hear anything I said.
It's fascinating to me that this is the exact same phenomenon. And so I wonder, ... did I learn anything back then? Did I learn anything I can use today to help make this better? Or am I doomed to repeat the same pointless, stupid cycle because I never learned how to break out of it?
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